Not Enoughitis
This a real journal entry. My own journal. My most intimate thoughts that I’m willing to share with anyone who might be going through chronic depression. I changed and omitted names to respect people’s privacy. Here’s a look into the mind of somebody suffering from not enoughitis and being in complete denial that there was anything wrong with her mental health. I hope this helps. I would also like to tell you, my reader, that you are enough.
Feb 28th, 2022
Its been 6 months!
So I’m doing therapy now. I really like her. Amanda is her name. I never know whether to call her Dr. Smith though. It feels forced, so I just say hello. We do video calls. I don’t know how I feel about it, but it’s ok, I suppose.
Talking to her made me realize that maybe what I really would like is to have a friend. She feels like she’s a friend. For 50 minutes. Then she’s gone. A friend that I pay for. Like some people pay for sex, I pay for friendship. No strings attached.
She really has been helping me. Giving me some tools in order to sleep better, have less anxiety about my son leaving for college, etc… Sometimes I worry that she’s too expensive and that my insurance won’t cover much. I keep thinking about my sis in law’s therapist in Brazil. She’s much cheaper and we could talk more often. I feel bad about having to break up with Amanda, but I might not have a choice.
There’s a few things I want to bring up on our next session, so I decided to write it here. It feels good to journal again. It feels good to write again. So here they are:
Obsession with a Brazilian writer called Clarice Lispector.
Excessive consumption of her books.
Excessive consumption of trying to find out what her routine looked like by reading her biographies and a book of letters that she wrote to family and friends.
What she ate, what time she woke up, what time she wrote and how she lived her daily life.
Finding out very little about the details.
Proceeding to get frustrated because all I want is to be her.
The fact that’s she’s so mysterious is probably what’s so alluring to me.
Why do I not want to be myself? Why is it not enough?
Things I have in common with Clarice:
1- We are both very maternal
2- We feel dead when we are not creating.
3-We both hate crowds and small talks.
4-We both think our work is shit. Except mine really is.
I’m trying to write a science fiction novel in English , which is my second language, but I feel that i’m a lot smarter in Portuguese. But all my research is done from books written in English, so I don’t have the Portuguese vocabulary for this specific novel.
Clarice writes books about the deepest and darkest feelings and thoughts of all human beings such as a woman who decides to eat a cockroach. (Passion According to G.H.)
There’s a quote from that book that says: “Don’t get rid of all your flaws, you never know which one keeps your entire building standing.” I mean…. FUCK!
In all her life, she gave but only a couple of interviews, and on her last one, she requested it to be televised only after her death. (who asks for things like that?) She died in 1977 of cancer. I was one. So no chance she reincarnated in me.
People who knew her said she liked being a mom and a housewife. And she would sit on her couch, with her typewriter on her lap and write her books while living her life.
I take pictures of myself sometimes recreating her looks and expressions
I write short stories in Portuguese trying to emulate her way of writing. Minus her genius.
She and I started reading and writing at a very early age.
I wish we could’ve been friends.
All and all, she’s a major inspiration.
Here’s a quote from her last interview: ‘When I talk to adults, its more difficult, because Im talking to the darkest side of myself.” (when asked which was easier, talking to adults or kids)
I don’t know. Maybe I won’t tell my therapist all these things. (*I didn’t) It sounds creepy. Maybe because it is.
Just for reference of time: Russia has invaded Ukraine.
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